My Dad recently e-mailed me a Q&A he read in a newspaper interview with Alex Malley, CEO of the CPA of Australia, and wanted to know my thoughts.
Here's the Q&A he sent me:
Question: How long should you stay in a job you don't like?
Alex Malley's Answer: You should stay in a job you don't like until you learn how to like it, until you learn how to respect the people you don't respect.
If my Dad had sent me this even one year ago, I would have said I completely disagree with Alex Malley's response. I would have said if you don't like your job, pack up your belongings and get outta there as fast as possible!
However, as I've grown older & wiser ( ;) ), my view on this has changed considerably. Here's what I responded to my Dad instead:
I would actually agree for the most part... it's important to respect people and to not feel you are above them or better than them -- you are less likely to succeed at anything you do if you come from that mindset.
I also think if you can learn to like a job you don't like, shift your perspective on it, focus on the things you do like about it, and be grateful for it rather than disdainful, that's a very empowering thing to do and it breaks the pattern of, "I don't like my job... I don't like working." Breaking that pattern is just as important as finding a job you really like - they go hand in hand. Otherwise, you may just leave the job you don't like, go to another one and find after a while you don't like that one either, you know? Grass is always greener kind of thing. Even if you are running your own business and doing something you are incredibly passionate about, you can still self-sabotage with those old patterns. Alternatively, you can choose to thrive with the proper focus and perspective.
A lot of it is about perspective. It is the powerful combination of using your unique talents & passions, with the right mindset, that is desirable. These things feed off of each other and I think anyone is completely unstoppable if they can master their mind AND use their gifts & passions in their work. Love,
This is what I help my clients with - to not only discover the work they want to do, but to also master their minds so they can be truly happy & thrive in whatever work it is that they choose - so they can be truly GREAT.
I often come up against, "Well, if I learn to like my job now, then I won't want to leave it." If you hear yourself saying this, ask yourself the question, "Is that true?"
My guess is, it's not (unless you are truly already doing something in alignment with your gifts & purpose). Learning to like a job you don't like is an invaluable lesson, and it will give you the energy, motivation & confidence you need to move forward and pursue your dream; it will help you to be open & receptive to new ideas and opportunities you may not have considered or recognized previously.
Here's to loving our jobs.